I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, Nationally Certified Counselor and Distance Credentialed Counselor. I started my private practice under Renewing Light and then transitioned my practice to a group; Venus Springs Advocacy for Community Enrichment, LLC. I have created this blog in order to reach out and provide some insights for individuals seeking self-improvement. It's my hope that this blog is informative, helpful and encouraging.
STATION: PART TWO-FLEAS
When you have been in a toxic situation and have endured emotional abuse,
self-doubt can be a very big obstacle. One that I believed I managed to conquer
for the most part...but every once in awhile it rears it's ugly head. I was
reflecting on my past post, Manipulation Station, and old memories of many
heartbreaking experiences began to surface. It started slowly at first and
before I knew it I had begun on a dark descent into the shadows of residual
toxic grime and I was re-living interactions and began questioning my choices.
In crept feelings of guilt, shame anger...ugh. NOT THIS AGAIN! I began battling
myself and fighting urges to explain myself to a person I decided to cut out of
my life. Logically, I know talking to this person will not fix anything. In fact
it would most likely do quite the opposite and open Pandora's Box. I'd be
hopping back on that crazy train after bravely jumping off.
Want to Be Angry!!!!:Understanding Your Anger and Ways to Practice Letting It
GoWe've all encountered that one person that you feel has really
wronged you to the depths of your soul and back again. That someone who you
adored and loved to the best of your ability that just kept throwing daggers
your way. You know that someone who's brought out the worst in you; to the
point where you start throwing daggers back and you no longer like what you
have become. The toxic person, the manipulator, the liar, the fake, the
shallow, the all about them friend or partner.
So now here you are and you've reached the point of no return. They did or said
something that put them beyond the point of redemption in your eyes and you
have no desire to reconcile. You might feel there's nothing you can do or say
to make things right. The thought of confrontation makes you sick because you
believe it will only make things worse; you've tried before. You've come the
you've been manipulated or are currently being manipulated by someone you love
is frustrating to say the least. Sometimes it takes knowing these people and
having them in our lives to show us what we don't want to become, what we are
capable of becoming and who we really are.
Manipulators knowingly and often times
unknowingly provoke others to behave in ways they would not normally behave. It
offers them some sense of control and satisfaction to get you to the point of
acting uncharacteristically; so they aren't the bad guy. At times they might
even say, "You are making me look like the bad guy"..implying that
you are the problem.
If you are like me you'll try to see past their issues and love them anyway. If
you don't see through their tactics or ignore them, it will inevitably take a
toll on you and often times drive you to the point of questioning who you are.
Constant criticism and fault finding for not meeting ridiculous…